Title IX - Advocacy, Support, and Action

How to help a friend who has been sexually assaulted:

  • Validate him or her by listening and asking how you can best help him or her.  Ask your friend what you can do to help him or her feel more comfortable, safer.  Never force decisions or choices.
  • Acknowledge that you understand it’s hard to talk about, and that you’re grateful your friend  trusts you. (Most victims are reluctant to share their story for fear of being blamed or judged.)
  • Be aware that most victims discount the severity of assault, second-guessing themselves and decisions they had right before the assault. 
  • Remind your friend that sexual assault is always wrong and that you are going to help him or her connect with people who are trained to assist those who have been assaulted. 
  • If the assault has recently happened, encourage your friend to go to the hospital and file a police report.  Never force a victim to do anything his or her will, but let him or her know that many victims, in hindsight, regret not having gone to the hospital or filing a report.  It is best if a victim resists the urge to shower until after an examination and if the original clothing articles are taken.  The college staff is trained to support victims going through the examination process.
  • Encourage counseling.  The Benedictine College Counseling Center has licensed providers who are trained to students restore a sense of well-being after an assault.  All counseling is free and confidential.  (913) 360-7621.  A 24-Hour, confidential crisis line serving those impacted by sexual assault in the Atchison community can also be reached by calling (913) 367-0363

Know the facts:

  • Most assaults are committed by an offender the victim knew and trusted.  Nationwide, one in four women will experience rape or attempted rape. Nine out of ten acquaintance rapes are never reported.
  • Beware of shame.  Most victims, in shock, partially blame themselves for not having predicted the assault.  They need supportive friends and professionals to remind them that assault is wrong - always, no matter what.
  • Women ages 16-19 are at a risk that is four times higher than the general population.
  • Though not as common, many men can also be victims of sexual assault.  Men need to know that they, too, will find support.
  • Consider joining Ravens CARE to help promote healthy respect of the human person.

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